By Jauher Zaidi 7-21-2019
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” —Aristotle
If you want to be a Happiness Failure, I suggest you practice these 10 habits.
Happiness failure #1: Don’t focus or live in the present
I was having meeting with a potential vendor. Less than one minute into the meeting, he received a text. Right away he looked down at his phone and started to respond. Thirty seconds went by. Then two minutes. I sat there as he continued to text away, smiling and nodding his head. After three minutes, I walked out of the meeting. He came after me, but I decided that I not want to do business with him. He showed that he would have difficulty focusing and paying to me or the task at hand.
You are guaranteed to lose business, friends and family if you develop the habit of not paying attention to the person in front of you or the task at hand.
Happiness failure #2: Don’t walk the talk
Over the years I have met many people who tell others “I’m writing a book”, “I’m starting a business”, “I will get back to you.”
The funny thing is how people react – they applaud you for announcing something. When we tell someone our goal or task and they acknowledge it, research shows that it’s a psychological thing called ‘social reality.’ The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it’s already done something. And then because we’ve felt that satisfaction, we’re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.
So you got to be proactive and do more than state your intention.
Happiness Failure #3: Spend time with losers – Don’t spend time with people you can learn and grow with
If you spend enough time with losers, you will become one.
“We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with”. – Jim Rohn
You will be known for the company you keep.
Happiness Failure #4: Criticize everything… and everyone
Criticize everything – at home or at work. Things you buy, you eat and especially people you say you love and care for. Tell them and others what they are doing wrong. If they ask you to go to gym with them. Tell them, “I am healthy and I don’t need to waste my time in gym.”
Also don’t forget to criticize things that you don’t have control over like the weather. You make sure you hate rain, snow and off course you don’t like heat or cold, so you stay home as the weather doesn’t allow you do anything. Wasting a day is ok for you, as there will be another day tomorrow.
Happiness Failure#5: Procrastinate
What’s the benefit of doing things today when there is another day coming tomorrow? If your boss asks you why the task isn’t done, just say, I will finish it tomorrow. Repeat the same thing to your boss day after day. If you get fired for not doing your job, go find another job. Just tell them “my boss did not know how to manage people and projects. He did not understand technology and he set us all up for failure by agreeing to a very aggressive schedule from upper management.” Or say, “he fired me to protect his job.” Also, don’t look for a job right away, take your time. Don’t try to finish anything today.
Happiness Failure #6: Don’t Listen To Others – Never ask experts for advice
Make sure you don’t ask others for advice. Just do what you think is right. Never say to experts, “can I ask you for advice” or “I need your opinion because you have experience in what I am trying to do and I care about your opinion”. This will show weakness on your part.
Happiness Failure #7: Be lazy
Never volunteer to do anything. If someone ask you for help just say “not now, can we do it later” or “I don’t feel like doing anything now.” It’s ok to miss important events. If you don’t feel like going to a lunch or dinner party, people will understand you are busy. If you don’t feel like buying a gift or calling your mother on her birthday or on Mother’s Day, it’s ok. These are normal feelings – you can always tell your mom later that “you were tired and sick”. She will understand and pray for you. After all it’s her problem that you are behind and can’t get anything done. At work, complain to your boss that other people are working fast to make you look bad. Your boss should do his job to slow other team members down otherwise he is not a good manager.
Happiness Failure #8: Don’t learn new things
Make sure you strengthen your belief that learning is a waste of time. You tell your brain that you did not learn anything in high school or university. Your brain is not designed to understand math and economics. It flies over your head, therefore, going to seminars or conferences will not help. It will be waste of your time. If your boss sends you to seminar or a class to learn about new technology or management, just say please don’t waste company money and my time. Don’t read books either. If you do, make sure you never finish them. You know that learning is a struggle and you have already struggled in school and now you do not need to learn anything new. You already know that going to school was a total waste of your time and money, just remember that you did not learn anything in school. Don’t learn a new language either because in a few years, translation will be great on your iPhone or Android. You already know how to do a Google Search and that is enough to be an expert.
Happiness Failure #9: Don’t be kind to people and don’t socialize or grow your network.
Don’t be nice to people who like you and invite you to have good time. You believe that all people have problems. That they are going to sabotage you. It’s way cooler to be alone – you don’t need friends. You have your smartphone and Netflix.
Make sure you don’t believe in this statement “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know that makes you successful”.
Happiness Failure #10: Be a quitter – Quit before you start
If you can take away one thing from this post: Never finish what you start. Just give up and spend lots of time on justifying reasons “why this can’t be done. Discount what Thomas Edison said, “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Say Edison’s inventions of electricity and the light bulb took him 1000 tries before he found the right material to make light bulb work. And that his light bulb invention has created energy shortages, economic crisis’ and wars.
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If you want to be successful in life, just do the opposite of what I’ve listed. And never give up on your dreams and the people around. Imagine if Edison had given up on inventing electricity and light bulb.
Don’t be a Happiness Failure. Never forget to smile and always stay in the Happy State!